Bed mythology. The main secret of the geisha

In career sphere there are many stereotypes familiar to all. Of course, happens, that the chief the man considers each woman working in its firm, not only as expert in the area, but also as a certain sexual object. Happens quite often, that the woman-subordinate hunts for the successful man. It its money, its status and those possibilities which it possesses interest. For the sake of achievement of the purpose it is ready on much, and first of all — to use the sexual weapon. It was necessary to observe also and women-chiefs, «the put eyes» on the attractive employee. All it in a real life exists, but has such great variety of shades from white to black, that roles of "victim" and «the sexual robber» are often mixed, and it is difficult to understand, who is a victim, and who the sexual robber actually.

About career by means of a bed method there is a set of myths.

Myth № 1: the man-chief chooses the secretary not so much as the worker, how many as the partner on sex.

Myth № 2: the fastest and reliable career what the young woman in business can make is its sexual readiness to respond to the obscene offer, that is absence of complexes.

Myth № 3: the director of firm is a sultan of a harem, and all women of office, they want that or not — its concubines.

Give, girlfriends and kollezhanki, we will disassemble these myths: on stones!

So, a myth № 1 about the chief and the secretary. Sounds not bad! Almost as those jokes, from whose beard it is possible to knit jackets and socks. According to vital supervision and texts of announcements of a set of employees, all without an exception men-chiefs select to themselves the secretary from reasons of an external gratefulness and business quickness. Anybody from made heads does not want, that in its reception the "crocodile" frightening with appearance of visitors sat. Many chiefs even understand, that the reception where the secretary reigns is a person of office. For this reason appearance of the girl-secretary has such value. Not casually selection of the candidate on this post passes as a casting of top models. As a result the chief chooses that which most of all corresponds to its representations about a female gratefulness and efficiency from many pretenders.

And now — attention! Having made the choice, the chief-man, as a being logic so consecutive in the thoughts and actions, waits from the darling (secretary) of a reciprocal course. What does it amount to? a reciprocal course from the woman-subordinate it: diligent work, umene to serve the chief and its visitors (tea, coffee, juice, waters), competently to conduct document circulation to call up to the necessary people and still much-premnogoe. Thus to be always attractive, ready to any commissions of the chief and affable. And when the chief offers the secretary sex, it does it for a raising of own self-estimation. The secretary in this case only one more means for its self-affirmation. Therefore, if the girl is clever and does not want sex with the chief, it can always translate arrows of a situation in other channel. Since Cleopatra's times our sisters knew, how it is possible to operate the man. Thus the chief, naive, thinks, that it operates!

Certainly, ideal situations does not happen. If the chief wants you, and you are not present it, that, probably, you should leave — let's not shut eyes to this problem. There are you on work only in case of the absolute professional indispensability added with the reasonable reference with kobelirujushchim by the head. Absence of the slightest provocations, the maximum immersing in work Means, «and in general to me it is uninteresting, I of other orientation» (as an extreme case).

Myth № 2, about «to fast career through sex». As any myth, is strongly exaggerated. As from the point of view of psychology, sex from the subordinate for the man-chief absolutely other business, rather than in home life. It is dictated by an impulse, minute passion so it is not perceived by the man as something serious, to something obliging more often. The little fools believing, that such most ancient method they have adhered to themselves the chief once and for all, are mistaken. Only sex, sex as that cannot serve as a career guarantee. For really reliable career other bodies — for example, brains are necessary still, except sexual, and.

Confirming it, I will make a reservation: as in each rule, here again there are exceptions. Though and it is rare, but nevertheless there are the men-chiefs operated not that is allegorically and bashfully called by "man's advantage» and about what so like to write teenage magazines, and on the contrary — common sense.

Myth №3: the sultan and concubines. The most unpleasant and, unfortunately, the most widespread is a situation when the person aspires to satisfy the requirements at the expense of others. Remember in immortal comedy Gajdaja, «the Caucasian captive», Jury Nikulin sings a song that «If I would be the sultan, I would have three wives. And by threefold beauty would be surrounded»!

When "chief-sultan" applies for sexual attention from women-subordinates, it considers physical affinity as one more, the next service. For those who does not wish to be «the concubine of office harem», the most effective way out — to prove to the chief, that its "self-relevancy" as the clever and succeeding man, is not in frameworks of sexual mutual relations. It it is ready above! It Also lays, this most its Achilles' heel (self-estimation), in its remarkable administrative decisions! Either in business strategy! Or in an office interior!

Remember, stinkers, girlfriends and colleagues: it is the most important to man to receive on light the higher estimation for any activity. The widespread legend that «the woman loves ears», in the same way approaches men-chiefs. They too love ears. And from the women-colleagues it is much more interesting to them to hear something connected with the work, any reasons about their professionalism, than banal physiological joys. Simply sex can be bought. And here intellectual conversation with the person knowing your business and understanding it thoroughly, if you will buy for absolutely other money (services, career growth, the every possible blessings). Prove, that the most interesting, that it is possible to do with you is to listen to you. Tell new fairy tales SHeherezady! Because level of your intelligence much more above, than at the average concubine of the usual Post-Soviet enterprise. And then sex will be initiated by you if that want with whom want and when want!

If you doubt, that it is possible to work on the man and to be from it independent, here it is a high time to tell to you something about the Japanese geishas. Do not hurry up to say, that it is the simply beautifully dressed up women for sex services, not so all is simple.

To geishas long since the relation special. The hero of "the White sun of desert» companion Suhov who has told, that the East — business thin, was absolutely right. Europeans often confuse the geisha to the girl from a bar or the usual prostitute. It is an error. Geishas is a historical phenomenon, the unique cultural tradition which does not have analogues. The entertaining, coquettish, witty and erotic geisha is created specially for amusement of the man that he has felt own exclusiveness, instead of is simple for sexual joys. They are true skilled workers of thin conversation, mood and sensuality.

Many Japanese, strangely enough, never met the geisha: madly expensively. Pair of hours in its society will manage in a quarter of the annual salary of the average employee. However, money here has no value, recommendations are necessary. For the Japanese to be invited to evening with the geisha — a great honour. It for it both a dream embodiment, and the true accomplice simultaneously. Visit to geishas — the original ticket in the closed club for respectable public. Only large officials and well-founded businessmen presume to spend to themselves evening or night in a tea small house where geishas reign. Outwardly extremely constrained, found, they are capable of a playful joke, keeping thus a good manners and dispassionateness aura.

The Japanese companies often suit for foreigners a traditional supper with geishas. Girls render to visitors of thousand signs on attention, watch, that the glass was always full, brush away with a fan, clean aside a jacket, light a cigarette, but on they be all. In the middle of a supper they are arranged on a tiny scene where, sitting in a lap, play a national three-stringed musical instrument. Geishas dance, recite verses. Then again sit down by visitors.

The geisha goes small short steps, silently sliding on a floor in the wooden sandals. Its movements are graceful and slightly zamedlenny. Tiny and unusually graceful, the geisha symbolises female sensuality. The high hairdress covered with a varnish, the white person, lips skilfully tinted by bright red lipstick, the eyes brought in a direction of temples by black and red colour, — all in the geisha reminds a doll, which calling — to be the woman.

During a business supper she drinks, but does not eat, treats visitors sake and supports conversation. In the presence of the geisha any man, whether it be the president of the company or the minister, turns to the child dreaming of its favour. And in it to it, by the way, can and give up.

Earlier each city had the house of geishas. The visitor crossed a threshold and for the evening became "emperor". There came time of "a tea cup». Then the Japanese family considered for itself as honour if the girl selected destiny of the geisha. That fact, that parents presumed to pay expenses of the daughter on training, forced surrounding to concern them with the big respect. Certainly, since then Japan has strongly changed. And still the valid, careful relation of Japanese to geishas remains, because they belong to tradition, eternal values of the Japanese life.

The main secret of geishas that is defined by concept "harmony". Harmony of a voice and words, gestures and beauty. Mild, pliable and precautionary, and at the same time full of exciting inaccessibility, the geisha is unsurpassed in art to ennoble the man. With the prostitute the man feels the male, with the geisha — the Samurai, that is the soldier, the hero, a wise man. And the Man.