Happiness not in money? The passion to prodigality - as with it to struggle and whether to struggle in general

Money — the important component of our life. From what party do not look. «Happiness not in money... And in their quantity», — popular wisdom says and maliciously summarises an old joke. It would be desirable to quote still ancient maxims: «it is better to be rich and healthy, instead of poor and sick», "take care of the pence, the pounds will take care of themselves", «many money does not happen» and so on. But, by and large, this notorious money overworks after all that them to spend. A question — on what, when and how many?

To squander money, that is recklessly to spend them that in general not so and is necessary, it was possible to all of us. To a greater or lesser extent. And if to penetrate into this complicated question still it is possible to argue that is better. With taste them to squander or «to press copeck», skopidomnichat. Our love to thrift and passion to prodigality speaks About what character traits?

But we will speak in this chapter not about greed of one or width of nature of others. Not about that, how many and when to spend reasonably. Not about the family budget. We will speak about the phenomenon. Perhaps, even about the diagnosis. About prodigality. About scattering of money uncontrollably and without sense. Why one are subject to it, and others — are not present. Who suffers from a similar illness is more often? And if tranzhira the woman as its expenditure are perceived by the man close to her? In general, that this such and as with it to struggle. Or not to struggle?

One, but ardent passion...

Angela as itself remembers, adored to go shopping. In the childhood mum laughed: « Yes, to you simply hands burn down money! Hardly three copecks were got — at once they should be spent. On business, without business — there is no difference, the main thing — to get rid of them somewhat quicker ». While the vein on the grant yes worked as the younger scientific employee in NINAS, money catastrophically did not suffice. Eternally borrowed to the salary. Licked eternally lips, looking at show-windows of shops. It became then easier. Well and when the husband have sent to work as the correspondent of TASS to France, Angela vosprjala spirit. Here show-windows so show-windows! Eyes you will not take away! But money all also did not suffice. The salary not all that well, and temptations!. Having seen off Seregu for work, and the son in a kindergarten, it went on shops. Every day, as on service which at it was not. Went, looked, chose, considered francs, estimated, asked the price, tried to get a sale pas. Came back loaded with purchases. Tired, but happy. However, then, considering bought, was surprised:« And what for I have bought this blouse? To what does not approach. Well at a discount, well it is cheap. With what it to carry? »

Who lived in Europe, knows: salaries there at ours were always insignificant. And it would be desirable all! How here to restrain? And so much all is necessary. Both from clothes, and for the house. In Moscow still the apartment should be bought. And certificates for the car to save up (those years in the country was of nothing, it was possible to buy something, preliminary having saved up currency).

The husband, having noticed a new thing, simply flew into a rage.

— Well you, do not understand, whether that? So we never will save up on "zhiguli". We have decided, that first of all — the car. Yes or not?

Angela only nodded yes bit lips. The rights Sergey, but... Well it was not kept...

And Sergey indifferent to clothes, was perplexed: «Well how many it is possible to buy It barahlo? Materialism any extreme! As illness any. Here so much all interesting. Go, look, learn language, read, communicate. No, to it if only to go shopping and buy, buy, buy...» It was content necessary and convenient. A fashion did not pursue. But, you see, it is difficult to live in Paris and to be unfashionably dressed. But to be ready I smother to put in pawn, to buy one more jacket, the tenth shoes under the account. No, he did not understand it. Therefore quarrels for closed dvermi apartments Prostjakovyh flashed almost every day. But even they could not spoil to Angela pleasure that here has carried, such charming trousers has bought.

Fly, money, fly!

It is impossible to tell what to start up money for a wind love only to the woman. There are many accurate, quiet, economical men and the women conducting records of incomes and expenses, original ambarnuju the book. Fix all to copeck. Are capable to save patiently, postponing it is literally on copeck. Others do not have not enough patience to save up money for something expensive. As it to waste time on trifles and consider at all copecks, roubles — a knife sharp.

What there to speak, choosing itself of the partner in life, we look at much. It should be beautiful, clever, kind, sympathetic, cheerful, and the main thing — favourite! And he likes to go shopping or not? Whether can save, refusing to itself in trifles? On it we do not reflect more often. But home life, a life just also consist of trifles. And here, when converge ice both plamen — a hoarder and tranzhira then keep! To understand each other they it is simple not in a condition.

If it is fair, both that and another — not a crime. Simply different approach. To an economy, to money, to purchases. And generally, choosing itself Angela in the wife, unless Sergey did not see, what its things interest more than the literature or painting? What it baraholshchitsa? Saw, probably, but has not drawn conclusions. Or it carefully hid it, understanding, that it is better to show the goods on the other hand. Wished to look more intelligent. Well and who from them is guilty, what one has overlooked, I another have played a cunning trick? Who is guilty — not so important, and both here suffer.

But very often husbands hang labels on the wives. A pier, to it how many money do not give, all will spend! But after all the economy is conducted is more often by the wife. She buys products, the things necessary to all family every day: all these tooth-pastes, detergent powders. Clothes for children and the husband: from trifles to the large. You know families where husbands to themselves buy socks and cowards? That! And shops, as is known, a risk zone. There only get, you will necessarily be tempted on something.

So female passion to do inutile purchases it is possible to compare to passion of men not less undermining the family budget to buy any small screws, details to the car. Or marks, if it the philatelist, coins, if the numismatist. Here works the same effect of a zone of the raised risk which shops are. And men and women do in them impulsive purchases.

On a note

• At acquaintance to the man it is possible to embellish slightly, of course, itself, «to fill with a fog». Especially if it would be desirable to make impression. But consider, that will reap the fruits then nedoponimanija. Whether to share with the favourite approach by a life is better? A pier, I adore to go shopping and do purchases. What here the shameful? And about details: how often to go and how many money to spend, it is possible to agree gradually. But, as though it boringly sounded, all is good rather.

• If know, that it is necessary to save up the unlimited sum for purchase of apartment, the car, the new furniture, expensive ware, — here not to tranzhirstva! I advise to take simple not with myself many money. It is exactly so much to buy products and casually not to be spent for the superfluous. Far away from temptation!

• More emotionally excitable women try the stress "zaest" something vkusnenkim or hasten to please itself with purchase. And if fairly is effective enough way. To please itself it is necessary. But to think and of interests of other members of a family too does not stir.

I considered earlier, that love to run about on shops at us from hereditary poverty. When it is a lot of generations of the Soviet citizens have grown in system of terrible deficiency only. When all should be extracted: from the car to stockings. But, on the other hand, in the West it is full of the women-idlers living behind wide backs of rich husbands. They with not smaller passion «do shopping». Means, has put all the same in nature: not so rich, not too developed, the limited suffices. So are right tranzhirki, that hide this passion from the admirers. Otherwise, you look, and does not marry...