Shine and cleanliness in the house. Thrifty akkuratistka — dream of the man?

Such statement of a question will seem to accurate and tidy people simply silly. Anyway, they are convinced, that if has managed to be born the sloven it is better to keep mum about it.

I will remind a known Bulgarian fairy tale as the old man searched for the worthy wife to the son. It went on villages and suggested mistresses to bear all available dust to it in a vehicle. And itself changed it on weight for something valuable to that life! Here to it careless mistresses also dragged a dirt everyone bags. Only one girl has timidly shown a tiny hill of dust in a scoop. Naturally, the old man on it has decided to marry the son. That that in the house always had cleanliness and an order. And still because the accurate wife, in its opinion, is much better than the wife careless.

Well and how actually? About what speaks adherence of other people to the perfect order? About accuracy? About chistopljujstve? Or about any deep, equilibrium parties of human mentality? Whether and so slovens are bad? And in general, as it is necessary to bring an attention to the question: the person for cleanliness (is more exact, for its constant maintenance) or cleanliness for the person?

Cleanliness and order above all!

There was it for a long time. And it is very far — in one small African country. In young years it was possible to me to live there, and to my husband — to work. Also there was there an ambassador, the most important person for all of us, the Soviet citizens. If who does not know, I will specify — glavnee it there was only a Lord the God in which in those days to trust it was not recommended.

He managed destinies of people on the, not always to the right opinion. Also there was there one more main person, the second after the ambassador, knowing questions of the Soviet foreign trade... Also there was at it a wife, the woman clever, very sharp on language and wilful. The ambassador was neumen, is weak, but very much valued the power. And still — it was pathologically accurate and melochen, to tediousness. And here this came periodically torgpredsha on a visit to the ambassador and his wife. Went on a huge hall and all as though inadvertently touched and shifted from a place — a chair at a table, a vase on a table, a floret in a vase on a table and so on. It did it Of mischief to vex the ambassador. And that tripped after it and all put into place.

Such here the memoirs from my youth have occurred to me when I began to think, and where the healthy aspiration of the person to cleanliness and an order, actually, comes to an end and begins... Limitation? Meanness? Tediousness? Irritability? I do not know. Though I do not justify this woman because it is bad to attack a favourite callosity to the person, and then behind his back zloradnenko to giggle, telling all about its meanness and irritability. When I have retold to one friend this history, she has burst out laughing: « Very well I understand this yours torgpredshu! At me at the mother-in-law such. For it the main thing — an order. That all was on shelves: plates in a sideboard on a formation, boots in a corridor — on lineechke! The Wardrobe in such ideal order, that it blindly there that you want will find in one second. Well and it is excellent! Live to itself in an ideal and sterile order if so it is pleasant! But what for all around a life to spoil? Well why ideal cleanliness in the house should be the main reference point of human advantages. It, whether see, the book will not open, while all and everywhere will not clean! And I, if the book interesting will get, at all I do not see, the cloth on a table was bent and whether the ware »is cleaned from a table.

Thrifty akkuratistka — dream of the man?

I can not tell: «Yes!» If the dream, that, most truly, that man, whose mum supported day by day an order in the house, but did not force him, the boy, and then the teenager, the young man, scrupulously to watch cleanliness of the shirts. That is it is accustomed to an order, and to overstrain on a field of prompting of this order — is not present. Such man will especially not be angry at all with the wife grumbling, that here again it has not vacuumed a carpet, socks dirty again on a floor roll, books on all apartment are scattered... Will not be, because such behaviour of the woman in the house quite keeps within the stereotype which has developed at it since the childhood.

To accustom, of course, members of the family to an order follows. Simply because this order very much simplifies a life. And who to argue begins, that is easier and faster to take that lays on the place (whether it be keys, documents, money, clothing). And putting in order also leads to maintenance of that notorious cleanliness with which we and have begun our conversation.

But everything, certainly, should be within the limits of reasonable. And the woman for whom shine and cleanliness is the most important, ·radi which it is capable to saw the relatives since morning till the night, in my opinion, not dream of the man, and real punishment.

But, unfortunately, such akkuratistki — not a rarity. Especially if thus the woman — the wife, mother, the mother-in-law or the mother-in-law — tries to ego-trip. Not giving herself of the report that, constantly showing the accuracy and diligence, it simply humiliates others. But (she in it is assured) lifts herself to ideal level. More often, inaccessible.

Sometimes for such women the meaning of the life is reduced to finishing of the house to an ideal condition. Especially if they do not work and consider, that their house should sparkle. «Not as at this sloven — wives of my chief Fedechki».

Also such wife does not reflect, that except "vylizyvanija" floors in the house, constant grumble about indifference house and its weariness there is still a weight of interesting things in a life. Perhaps, her spouse and children would be more glad, if mum instead of grandiose cleaning before holidays would take and reduced all family in theatre. In a museum. Whether yes few interesting events occur in a city and the country in which it would be possible to participate.

On a note

• Such thrifty akkuratistki, even being well provided, refuse at times an active life. Do not recognise servants. All on the house do. And all — on a maximum. If make a dinner so from five dishes, are cleaned so from a ceiling a dust blow off, shirts erase — starch and iron to a faint.

• very often wives consider, that the family happiness constructed by their titanic efforts on putting in order in the house, is firm and is eternal. And more often husbands with pleasure use results of work of such wives. They even consider as their ideal wives. But... Boring to zevoty. With their sterile house.

• Psychologists have paid attention: excessive adherence to cleanliness and an order frequently is a symptom of uncertainty in. A sign of internal weakness of the person. Scrupulously putting things in order in own house, the person as if tries to hide behind this ordered world from chaos of the big external world which seems to them too difficult and very terrible. As a result it constantly is in pressure; any infringement of an order in the house, the thing shifted from a place (recollect the poor ambassador) irritate and afflict over a measure. In due course work on the house at the zealous mistress starts to take away too. It is a lot of time and forces. The pas that another them at it does not remain. As a result — the person feels a dissatisfaction and loneliness in the nest sparkling by cleanliness. And still — psychologists consider: if the person suffers from mania of cleanliness, it can speak and about... Dirty conscience. Means, behind soul it has shady affairs of memoirs about which it or it and try to muffle infinite cleaning yes washing.

But do not think, that I in delight from slovens with their dusty floors, dirty towels and the bowls full of greased ware. No, after all our house is too we, continuation of ours I. And if the person is not capable to support an order in the house and to live in cleanliness, it can speak about the serious internal conflict. Think, if the person is not able to organise the life where it to solve serious problems. In any case, all not so is unequivocal and simple, as it was told in Bulgarian skazochke. The disorder — not always an indiscipline and carelessness sign, neobjazatelnosti and sloppiness. And an ideal order — not always the certificate of sincere harmony and well-being. Any of us knows families, amicably and interestingly living in the cluttered up and slovenly house. And the tidied up apartments where, apparently, the melancholy and mutual discontent forever have lodged.