Grow fond of me the talker! Women boltlivee men? In what the reason of our excessive sociability and as with it to be

«In the evening it sat at the TV and drank tea. The wife as usually, stirred with someone by phone, but this fact any more did not cause for a long time in the colonel of former irritation». Having read in the novel of the Novel of Zlotnikov «Vivat, the emperor!» These lines, I have thought: apparently, the author had to face time and again in a life talkative women. And reaction at it on them was unequivocal — irritation.

Where there passes a side between skill to communicate and excessive garrulity, between sociability and the annoying incontience of words distinguishing (ordinary opinion) many women? Badly it or is good, what we, women, wish to chat both about important, and about trifles both with close, and with the first comer the person? Whether it is necessary to watch quantity of words in a second, taking off of our lips? Or all is bosh to which it is not necessary to pay attention?

Sing, solovushka, sing!

Mashka was the person easy and pleasant in dialogue. Her mother often with laughter recollected, how it in a kindergarten entered long conversations with teachers. Told about problems in the life which then were reduced to quarrel with the brother or loss of a favourite toy. But lexicon? Construction of phrases? Mum for fun named Manku the demagogue, very dexterously it transformed simple phrases into intricate semantic designs.

How many remembered by Masha, it was not represented to complexity to start conversation — not very well with whom: with the fellow traveller in the underground or the saleswoman in the market. There was it the garrulous smiling and attentive girl. The round dance of girl-friends eternally around turned.

— Here he has looked at me so mistrustfully and has turned away.
— Well and you that?
— And me even in a head could not come, that he has taken offence...
— Go you?

And so hours: findings-out of the smallest details, retellings of conversations. Little girls loved with it posekretnichat. And guys liked its openness. With it it was easy and simple, it is noisy and... Well, in general, was.

So Masha had no lack of gentlemen. But for love waited long. Though special fastidiousness did not differ. Simply for some reason on a way to it there were young men thoughtless and selfish. And the main thing, nobody has forced to tremble seriously its heart, anyway, so she explained to girlfriends the legibility. But here Mark it at once, from the first meeting has allocated, when has met him at friends. There was it kontakten, but is constrained. Not the handsome man, but is affable and brought well up. It is clever, erudirovan and knew, how it seemed to it, all. Mark had indisputable authority not only among friends. Probably, it occurred that from any dispute he came out the winner. All that unforgettable first evening they have stayed near, furiously arguing — you are surprised! — about Pushkin! And then there were long provozhanie, Brodsky's verses which Mark adored, farewell under blossoming lindens in its court yard. There was a beginning of summer, and nightingales already sang.

In the autumn Mashka already called friends on the wedding. And in the winter... Yes, all, apparently, at them is normal. Mark was tender, careful, but was even more often irritated on I Attract. Got tired at institute: conducted seminars, worked over the dissertation (before protection of less year remains). For earnings took transfers, therefore with evenings sat up. And houses... If not a topsy-turvy any girlfriend by all means ran posekretnichat, and the wife with it whispered late on kitchen.

Often he reproached the wife: «Well how many it is possible to talk? And after all same, same! And to sense from these conversations — a zero! Both there was a Belief the whiner, and remained. Both muzhiks jumped aside from it, and will jump aside. Because it is impossible to seize our brother from the first meeting death grip. Well we do not love it. So here three hours to discuss? And they dangle-are filled in».

But most of all he was enraged by the Car chatter by phone. Mark considered, that the device has been invented for simplification of a life, and about itself spoke: «It is possible to appoint, transfer or cancel a meeting. It is possible to consult about health, to ask about business, to offer, at last, the help. But to retell a film, confidential conversation with the admirer or in all details conversation with the doctor is too».

And Masha only was surprised: «Yes not too I much stir by phone. If each of girlfriends to meet — month will not suffice. And has talked, as if have seen».

She even could not imagine, that will so take offence at the husband because of reproaches. Soon it has given up as a bad job, and the life peacefully has begun to flow at them, but is wrong. Mark keeps silent more and more, having buried in the book. And Masha, having pressed a telephone tube to an ear a shoulder, penetrates into an intimate life of the girlfriends, gives advice how correctly to build the relations with men.

Talk to me, the darling...

Who is right, who is guilty in this situation — to argue there is nothing. Simply we with men are very unlike. They are rational and reserved, taciturn more often and do not like to start up to itself in soul. Women are more emotional, are inconsistent and carried away (in the majority) feelings: love, mutual relations. And it without dependence from that, extroverts we (and women and men) or introverts. Therefore it is not necessary to wait from men clear to us for behaviour and "female" displays of emotions — the same heart-felt long conversations.

Men are more reserved, than women. After all by the nature they are hunters., closed and strong the man tries to be unsolved. It still can talk about the politician or poetry, about cars, a football match or about the hobby. But in any way about movements of soul of the enamoured adolescent or sexual experiences of the heroine of a "soap" opera.

Certainly, they too can gossip with friends, but somehow it at them is uninteresting it turns out — shortly, at level of ascertaining of the fact. Usual remarks: «Ivanov has left from the wife»; «mum called yesterday, has ached absolutely». Will keep silent, will light, and all.

On mind the joke has come. The muzhik married. In a month its friends ask about a state of affairs: «Well as? Home life is good? The good wife has got?» He answers: «Oh, muzhiks, well! The wife tender, economic. In the evening from work I come, in the house all is tidied up. Already from the lift I feel: has prepared something tasty. I will enter, and she kisses tenderly so:" Go, road, hands mine, now for a table we will sit down! "And itself to a plate also chirps, chirps. Chirps, chirps! CHIRPS, CHIRPS! Would kill!»

But in vain men reproach us, women, with garrulity. From it, according to physicians, it is less than harm, than from their restraint and briefness. Judge. Our life is a train of events, sad and joyful. Now often use a word "stress". And so the stress is only response of an organism by pressure in reply to occurring events. And on any, not very well, tragical or joyful. The death of the loved one, divorce, imprisonment, dismissal or heavy illness cause, naturally, biggest pressure. But wedding, a birth of the child, promotion, moving on new apartment and even travel to holiday time as it is paradoxical, too influence our nervous system. So to get rid of stresses it is impossible, but here to learn to overcome them is possible and it is necessary.

Unlike the women pronouncing the stress and by that removing stress, men are not able to do it. It is difficult to present, that your favourite goes to the friend to be cried in a vest on the blunderer of the subordinate or the fool of the chief. It is even more difficult to imagine, how it lifts the receiver, that to chat with the friend about that about this, having splashed out, thus, the negative emotions hour or so. Psychologists insistently advise not to neglect dialogue. To be uttered, share problems, to discuss details. After all even telephone conversation with the loved one can help more effectively, than tranquilizers. And in general experts recommend to take for a rule to discuss with friends and relatives the affairs and cares. After all, having shared the problem, you already have almost solved it.

So, when us name talkers, to us, women not to take offence, and to learn it is necessary our favourite to easy dialogue. Besides that it removes a nervous tension, dialogue pulls together, allows people to learn better each other.

But sometimes it is necessary to bit tongue. There are moments in our life, when words to what.

On a note

• If wish to finish favourite to furiousness — stir in bed is more often! «Ah, oh, what you remarkable! It is unimaginable! As I love you! Tell to me tender words. You love me?» Noticed, men are silent during sexual intercourse. Women at times are ready to speak for a two. To it there is a physiological explanation.

• In bed the man is irritated with female chatter because it cannot concentrate on the sensations so, cannot take pleasure. Boltunja it distracts. So if you do not bite in time a uvula, he will feel defective near to you. You are filled in with a nightingale, means, he is simply obliged to answer you with the same. But make love and speak the man cannot. It strains, gives a maximum of energy and... Receives less pleasures. Well how here not to become angry?

• In general and the woman it is better to concentrate on the sensations, to relax and receive a pleasure maximum. Why she stirs? Most likely, simply is nervous. Habitual chatter helps it to remove stress, to relax in intimate conditions. Besides, women are not always capable to test orgazm — the higher physical pleasure. Conversations in bed for them in that case some kind of indemnification of the half-received pleasure.

• By the way, after sex far not each man is capable to understand, that you speak to it. And the more persistently you about something ask him, the more it should strain and distract from necessary rest.

• And still. There is such category of women which it is possible to name «bed regulirovshchitsami». Such are ready to give during the most intimate moments to the man of instructions, as well as that it should do. Near to such woman the partner feels the blunderer. As if without its manuals he is able nothing. Sex — business individual, it not employment by tennis or swimming under a command of the instructor. So, lovely ladies, watch the behaviour in bed! Eventually, it is not too difficult.